3 secrets to experience a truly seismic orgasm

You must have come across the word “earth shattering orgasm”. You might be wondering what such an orgasm is all about, because you have never, till date, experienced an orgasm of truly seismic proportions. You might have used your trusty little rabbit vibrator for this purpose, but what if you want to experience such orgasms during sexual intercourse?

Here are 3 secrets that will help your orgasm hit the roof. These are simple sex secrets that any and every woman can integrate in her sex life.

Secret 1: Don’t “wonder” whether you are going to have an orgasm or not?

Wondering whether you are actually going to experience an orgasm during sexual intercourse will not get you anywhere. On the other hand; telling yourself “Yes, I am definitely going to have one”, will pave the way for a wonderful orgasm. The focus will shift to the way you are going to have an orgasm. Orgasm is like a self-fulfilling prophecy; if you know you will get one and more importantly enjoy one, you won’t have any problems in experiencing one.

Secret 2: It’s all in the mind honey!

So what’s the most powerful sex organ, you have? If your answer is your vagina, clitoris or even your breasts, you have got it all wrong. Your mind is the most powerful sex organ you have, if you can only use it well. Bury your distractions in the deep recesses of your mind, when you are having sex. Concentrating on the matter at hand is a sure shot way of experiencing a blockbuster orgasm. Don’t believe it? Well, just try visualizing what you are doing while you are having sex. The images that will form in your mind are the biggest turn on. You are a part of your very own sexual fantasy! All you now need to do is go through the motions, till you experience heaven.

Secret 3: Sticking to a particular position

There are some people who might advocate trying out different positions and methods of stimulation to experience a mind boggling orgasm. But, in doing so, if you come across the position or activity that helps you orgasm, it’s important to stick to it. Allow your muscles to get used to that particular position that makes for sky rocketing pleasure. So, while having sex, try out any new positions that you want or use new ways of stimulation.

What guys want – What’s in and what’s out?

Its not that guys don’t like all soft romantic things that women so love doing. Deep down most men are real softies, but they are some things that they prefer over others. Knowing what they like and what they don’t, paves the way for a loving, fulfilling and long lasting relationship.

Love letters vs. romantic texts

Women are definitely impressed by those long love letters that are an outpouring of their man’s emotion, or are they? Think about it this way; when a man writes a love letter, more often than not it’s a way of trying to impress you. But, if you receive a loving text message, however small, it’s a spontaneous out flow of emotions; something that comes straight from the heart. So, don’t badger your man for that love letter that he doesn’t want to write. Wait for those romantic text messages.

Perfume or smell of your hair

Your man is definitely going to appreciate the perfume that you have used, but nothing can beat the appeal of your fragrant hair. The fragrance of your hair is going to be ‘all girl’, and men find it irresistible. You can employ various subtle ways of all kinds of applying an expensive perfume, but it’s not going to score over the clean and flowery smell of your hair.

Picnic vs. cookouts

Most men love a picnic. But a cute looking picnic basket doesn’t beat a grill, when it comes to eating out. Ask a man whether he would like to go for a picnic or a cookout session, there’s only one honest answer that going to come at you – the flaming grill and the cookout.

Sex toys vs. hands

He’s going to love you touching him in those erogenous corners of his body. But you know what he’s going to love even more - You using male sex toys to help him masturbate. Choose from amongst the many masturbators available, and give him a pleasant surprise. Extraordinary sex will follow.

Four fantastic foreplay tips – Fuelling your man’s sexual desire

Pre-play is what gets your man’s pulse racing and fuels his sex drive. For great sex, you need to add a healthy dose of foreplay into your sexual activity. Titillating foreplay helps get your man ready for sex and ensures that he experiences an intense orgasm.

It’s also going to make him want to perform better in bed. So, in a way it’s good for you too. Here are a few ways to get your man’s attention in the bed and enhance his sexual desire and performance.

Body talk

Let your body do the talking for you. Slowly, take off your clothes and let him feast your eyes on your naked form. Better yet, get wet and make sure your clothes are sticking to you like second skin. Peel them off slowly and watch your man hold his breath. Job half done!

Breath helps work up the appetite

Exhaling slowly on the erogenous zones of his body is going to heighten arousal. Just pressing your lips gently around his nipple or stomach and slowly letting out your hot breath, is going to send tingles down his spine.

Get touchy and feely

Feel him. Touch him. Do him. That’s the mantra to sexual success. Get hands on with your man to stimulate him. He’s definitely going to love you gently caressing his package, but before that touch him everywhere but there. Massage him, stroke him; do everything you can to help him reach the height of pleasure and expectancy. Using contrasting caresses and mixing up the rough with the smooth will pique his body no end.

Being merciless

Tease him for as long as you want. You need to bring your man to the brink and only when you are satisfied take it to the next level – sexual intercourse. You can even integrate the use of male sex toys or foreplay accessories to help him experience an orgasm without sexual intercourse. Once you have got him off, you can take your own sweet time to stiffen him up again. The sex that follows can go on for a longer time.

Cuddle signals – Know what your man is like when you cuddle up

Your man might look tough, but in his heart he is pure mush. When he holds you against him, it means a lot of things - primarily love, protection and understanding. Your man’s cuddle will also give an insight into his mind and his sexuality.

The dependable nurturer

Is your man is in the habit of cuddling you against his chest; it’s a way of showing that he’s there to take care of you. He’s the kind of man who is going to soothe your sinking spirits at the end of a hard day’s work and somebody who can be depended on, even in the most difficult of situation. This cuddle also speaks volumes for what he is going to be like in bed. He’s going to want to take charge, and more often than not, his favorite position will be missionary and doggie style. He is a man who knows what he wants sexually and is not afraid to use masturbators like fleshlights for addressing his pleasure needs.

The spooning cuddle

Another common cuddle is the ‘spoon’. This is a very physical cuddle; your bum’s going to meet his package. Its full body contact at its best; what’s more his hands are free to do some naughty work. Such men usually have high libido. Psychologists suggest that such men have difficulty in expressing their emotions, allowing their body to do all the talking for them. For such men, actions speak louder than words. Such men might also love using male sex toys.

The cuddle in your lap

If you love taking care of your man, you are going to love this cuddle. Men who love putting their heads in their partner’s lap are sensitive and extremely comfortable about their emotions. Some of these men might also look towards you as somebody who can help them feel better.

If you are evaluating your partner, keeping the cuddle, his cuddle, as one of parameters is a good idea. So, now when your man gives you a cuddle, you can actually preempt what he is thinking.