Masturbators in your man's closet – Should you be worried?

If you find a male vibrator or masturbator in your partner's drawer, your first reaction would most probably be of anger or hurt. Some couples do use cock rings and sex toys in their sex life; however, male masturbators is a different pitch altogether. So is there any need to be alarmed if you find one of his secret treasures?

Ask him

The first thing that you must do in this situation is to talk to him calmly and ask him about it. Chances are that you are alarmed for no reason. But keep an open mind and be empathising. He might be using it not because he loves you any less or he finds sex with you boring but probably because he wants to try something new to infuse variety. The reason it is hidden from you is because he is afraid of your reaction. If you give a positive reaction from the beginning, he will be more open with you about it.

Enhanced libido

After childbirth or during menopause, many women have decreased libido while their men don’t. This might make it difficult for you to have sex with him as regularly as he wants. It is better in this case that he uses male masturbators instead of looking for sex outside the relationship.

Performance anxiety

Sometimes the case may be reversed and you might have an active libido and he might be afraid of satisfying you. The new age male vibrators and male sex toys build stamina and allow men to practice their erection and love making techniques. Male masturbators such as the Fleshlights and Tenga are known to help men to learn how to last longer.

For the love of gadgets

Almost all men are fond of their gadgets, be it their mobile phones or the latest iPods. The advanced male masturbators such as the Tenga Flip Hole are very trendy and appealing to men and they find it irresistible to not give in to their love for gadgets. If your man bought a male masturbator because he was fascinated by the looks and features on offer there is hardly anything to worry about.

All in all, if your man has a treasure or two hidden in his cabinet, it's better to talk to him with an open mind instead of thinking that he loves you less or doesn’t find you attractive any more. In fact, this confrontation will bring about a great opportunity for you to bring sex toys to your love life and rekindle your relationship.