Strap-ons – Not just meant for lesbians!

Think of strap on toys and you think of a woman wearing a strap-on having sex with other woman. It’s natural that you conjure up such images, but it’s important to understand that strap-ons are not just meant for lesbians alone. Heterosexual couples can have fun with them too, as also can gay couples. Strap on dildos are one of those sex toys that are meant to be enjoyed by all couples.

Heterosexual fun

Strap on toys are geared for some intense sexual pleasure. A heterosexual couple can enjoy role playing sessions. A woman can use female strap ons to have anal sex with her man. On the other hand, male strap ons are designed in a way such they the dildo lies under the real penis. Dual penetration is possible in such cases and a man can put it to very good use.

Gay fun

Gay couples can enjoy sexual intimacy using male strap ons. They can surprise their partners with a male strap on with an extra sized dildo. Also, if one partner has been accused of a weak erection or reduced levels of stamina, strap on dildos can come to the rescue. The fact that a strap on brings the hips into play means you can have sexual intercourse for a much longer time. When sex gets creative, it becomes fun. Strap ons lets gay couple have all the fun they want.

A diverse range available

There are special strap on dildos that can help you have sex in all sorts of unique positions that help stimulate the deepest erogenous regions of the female and male body. Some people are guarded about using strap on dildos as a result of all the myths floating about regarding strap ons. But, those who have used these sex toys swear by their fun. No points for guessing that the creative use of strap on toys has made their sex interesting and their orgasms even more intense.

So don’t think of strap ons as a sex toy that’s only meant for lesbians. Strap-on sex is fun for everyone. Just let that erotic imagination of yours flow; and enjoy the novelty and excitement offered by these strap on dildos.

Brief guide to strap-on sex toys

For beginners, strap-on sex may seem to be intimidating. However, with this easy guide and a little practice you will soon find yourself an expert. There are two types of strap-ons, male strap-ons and female strap-ons. Some strap-ons can be used by males as well as females. Strap-ons come with a dildo or vibrator that is used for penetration.

Males who find it difficult to attain or maintain an erection often use strap-ons, whereas some males use a strap-on vibrator to enjoy masturbation while penetrating with a strap-on vibrator. Women use a strap-on vibrator to penetrate their partner anally. Whatever you choose to do with strap-ons, they can help to bring lots of variety to dull and boring sex sessions. Here's how you can go about selecting and using strap on toys:

1. Selecting a harness

Most strap-ons come with adjustable straps that are made to fit all sizes. Make sure you buy a strap-on made from nylon, for better comfort and fit.

2. Selecting an o-ring

An o-ring is the ring from which you can pass your vibrator or dildo. An o-ring should be flexible enough to accommodate dildos of various sizes.

3. Putting a dildo in an o-ring

It is very easy to put in a dildo in an o-ring. Some strap-ons come with a vibrator that fits the o-ring perfectly, so that will not pose any problem. If the strap-on you buy doesn't come with a vibrator or dildo, make sure you buy a strap-on with flexible o-ring that can fit your own dildo.

4. Wearing a harness

The next step after putting in a dildo is to wear a harness. These harnesses come with adjustable straps and so people of all sizes can wear them comfortably. The harnesses usually come with a buckle to secure the harness in place.

5. Communication

It is important that you and your partner communicate with each other properly before you use a strap-on. This is very important because you wouldn’t want to be surprised while you are at it. Thoroughly discuss all the aspects, including the position you would like to try first, who is going to play which role and ask each other at regular intervals if they are comfortable. This will make you first strap-on sex not only successful but also intimate and loving.

What's so good about the Tenga Wild Hole Lotion?

The Japanese company Tenga offers 3 lubricants, wild, mild and real hole lotion, all designed to give you a totally different, out-of-this-world experience. Different people like different Tenga lubricants but for a wild and ravishing night, the Tenga Wild Hole Lotion is just perfect.

You can use the Tenga Wild Hole Lotion with your Tenga toys or other sex toys. It is totally safe for use during sex too. However, the menthol taste of the Tenga Wild Hole might not suit everybody's taste, especially during oral sex. Wild Hole Lotion is different from the other 2 Tenga lubes namely Real Hole Lotion and Mild Hole Lotion. Tenga Mild Hole, as the name suggests is mild and Real Hole Lotion, as the name suggests give realistic feeling. The Tenga Wild Hole Lotion on the other hand is ravenously exotic and exciting and stimulates your senses and makes your erogenous zones tingle with excitement.

Extra features

It is water based lubricant but feels as thick as oil based lubricant, which means it’s thick enough to stay on while having fun as well as dilute enough to be washed off with water. It's non-staining, can be easily washed off with water and is as long lasting as oil based lubricants. Its soft and silky lubricating properties let you enjoy your time with your toys and add to the excitement and realistic feeling.

It is crystal clear and easy to use because of its long nozzle. Each bottle is 170ml and is priced reasonably giving you value for money.

Ingredients and safety

The Tenga Wild Hole Lotion consists of purified water, glycerine, sodium polyacrylate, phenoxy ethanol and paraben. It has been tested and certified in the European Union by the laboratory, Intertek Labtest. It is even safe to use with condoms.

However, if the lubricant accidentally comes in contact with your eyes, wash off immediately. Owing to its extra slippery properties, make sure you clean it off the ground or the bathroom floor. Don’t put this water based lubricant in the sunlight or keep it open for long or it might dry. Store it at room temperature.

Masturbators in your man's closet – Should you be worried?

If you find a male vibrator or masturbator in your partner's drawer, your first reaction would most probably be of anger or hurt. Some couples do use cock rings and sex toys in their sex life; however, male masturbators is a different pitch altogether. So is there any need to be alarmed if you find one of his secret treasures?

Ask him

The first thing that you must do in this situation is to talk to him calmly and ask him about it. Chances are that you are alarmed for no reason. But keep an open mind and be empathising. He might be using it not because he loves you any less or he finds sex with you boring but probably because he wants to try something new to infuse variety. The reason it is hidden from you is because he is afraid of your reaction. If you give a positive reaction from the beginning, he will be more open with you about it.

Enhanced libido

After childbirth or during menopause, many women have decreased libido while their men don’t. This might make it difficult for you to have sex with him as regularly as he wants. It is better in this case that he uses male masturbators instead of looking for sex outside the relationship.

Performance anxiety

Sometimes the case may be reversed and you might have an active libido and he might be afraid of satisfying you. The new age male vibrators and male sex toys build stamina and allow men to practice their erection and love making techniques. Male masturbators such as the Fleshlights and Tenga are known to help men to learn how to last longer.

For the love of gadgets

Almost all men are fond of their gadgets, be it their mobile phones or the latest iPods. The advanced male masturbators such as the Tenga Flip Hole are very trendy and appealing to men and they find it irresistible to not give in to their love for gadgets. If your man bought a male masturbator because he was fascinated by the looks and features on offer there is hardly anything to worry about.

All in all, if your man has a treasure or two hidden in his cabinet, it's better to talk to him with an open mind instead of thinking that he loves you less or doesn’t find you attractive any more. In fact, this confrontation will bring about a great opportunity for you to bring sex toys to your love life and rekindle your relationship.